Talking about body image

Talking about body image with your children can help them become comfortable in their own skin. When you discuss body image, you might:

• Set a good example. How you accept your body and talk about others' bodies can have a major impact on your teen. Remind your child that you exercise and eat a balanced diet for your health, not just to look a certain way. Also think about what you read and watch as well as the products you buy and the message your choices send.
• Use positive language. Rather than talking about physical attributes of your child or others, instead praise his or her personal characteristics such as strength, persistence and kindness. Avoid pointing out negative physical attributes in others or yourself. Don't make or allow hurtful nicknames, comments or jokes based on a person's physical characteristics, weight or body shape.
• Explain the effects of puberty. Make sure your child understands that weight gain is a healthy and normal part of development, especially during puberty.

• Talk about media messages. Social media, movies, television shows and magazines might send the message that only a certain body type or skin color is acceptable and that maintaining an attractive appearance is the most important goal. Even media that encourages being healthy, athletic or fit might depict a narrow body ideal — one that's toned and skinny. Social media and magazine images are also commonly altered. As a result, teenagers might be trying to meet ideals that don't exist in the real world.

  Check out what your child is reading, scrolling through or watching and discuss it. Encourage your child to question what he or she sees and hears.

• Monitor social media use. Teens use social media and services to share pictures and get feedback. Awareness of others' judgments can make teens feel self-conscious about their looks. Research also suggests that frequent social media use by teens might be linked with poor mental health and well-being. Set rules for your teen's social media use and talk about what he or she is posting and viewing.